Today we are going to interview Jeffrey Jackson, husband, daddy to two twins (8 years old at the time of recording), salesman and the proud owner of one of the top 50 fatherhood blogs out there called Daddy is Best (dot) com.
His entire blog concept and most of the content comes from a very interesting story that we are sure many parents out there will relate to even if you do not have twin children.
Coming from his very rare experience of being father of twins and being older than usual for a first time dad (we are not telling his age, you can find it on the show!), having a bi-cultural household and dealing with many different people from many different backgrounds as a salesman we will get a very different and mature perspective on being a dad from Jeffrey.
“Discipline is always probably the trickiest thing about being a parent these days, you never know what the right thing to do is.”
We will learn from his experience as he shares some interesting key moments in which some disciplining was needed to make sure the kids understand the message and keep it while learning about responsibility and accountability as well.
“You never know how you are going to be as a father, it is not like you are doing a job and you can see results immediately.”
We will also learn from him that even as an older dad with a lot more experience in life there are still moments when insecurity and uncertainty sets in. But at the same time we will learn that there are better ways to go about being a dad and it is only a matter of trying things out and being wise and patient (remember when we interviewed Ted Hecks?).
“To modify their behavior they have to be involved in the process and the way to get them involved is to make that connection.”
Fasten your seatbelts and prepare to have your minds filled with a very mature, interesting and exciting take on being a dad. There is a lot of knowledge to take from this episode, we sure did get a lot from it recording and getting it ready for you.
“The way I have evolved into disciplining is really just talking to my boys. Talking to them like an adult rather than like a child.”
“Kids know what the right thing to do is. That is okay if they make mistakes, but it is important to allow them to make those mistakes.”
“I thought I could come home and yell at them which would be the easy thing to do and definitely satisfy me but it wouldn’t get the point across to them about what they needed to do.”
“Diversity dads you have to connect before you correct.”
“If I am in traffic I have to remember that they are in the backseat so I can’t the first word that comes on my mind. I have two audience members looking at me that I am preparing for the world.”
“It’s the constant vigilance of being a dad is probably the biggest obstacle.”
“I always try to give them space so they can do what they want to do and make their own mistakes without getting hurt of course.”
“Just enjoy the kids and let them be kids. Let them grow up and just enjoy the process without trying to be too heavy handed in manipulating their growth.”
“We are all running into the same problems and we all have the same issues. And as dads we don’t get a lot of support from the rest of the world. So for dads to connect with each other I think it is important to know that there are other dads out there that will support you. Don’t be scared to reach out. You never know how somebody else can help you with what you are dealing with.”
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