Alex Barnett is a stand-up comic, podcaster and multi-cultural family man. He’s appeared on Katie Couric, Sirius XM Raw Dog Comedy Hits and was featured in the Wall Street Journal, as well as Huffington Post and other popular publications and shows. He is also the host of the MultiRacial Family Man podcast here he discusses issues of concern to multi-racial people within multi-racial families. He is also the co-founder of Jewish Fathers Comedy Tour and active with other comedic acts in the New York City area.
In order to mesh everything he does together, Alex says he’s jus done it “a bit at a time.”
He believes that becoming a dad has been a great source of comedic material.
“Most of my act is talking about stuff that’s happening in my life”
His podcast was an effort to continue the conversation about the issues he talks about on stage, but in a less comedic context.
Alex says the chance to add comedy and multi-racial topics presented themself naturally, as his wife is black and he’s wife. Also, he’s Jewish and his wife is converted.
“That was a fact of our life together. In comedy, the topics you can best present are true to your own life.”
Alex believes that there is still a lot to be done in terms of racism in the country.
“Talking about these things is of the moment and important, so that’s why I cover those matters”
He feels that he is a Diversity Dad by definition, being a diverse family. He also feels he is diverse in that he has a good level of empathy and sensitivity towards people of other races and ethnicities.
As Alex has gotten older, he’s learned to be more mindful, and he practices meditation daily.
“When you’re mindful, you consciously slow yourself down”
He says by doing this and exploring the world, you’ll find most people are good by nature.
Alex shares that finding time for himself isn’t easy, and it’s a commodity that no one has an endless supply of.
“You have a finite amount of time on the planet, but most people probably are not maximizing the use of their time”
He believes that to a certain extent, the busier you are, you’ll be more efficient.
The one thing that Alex is most excited about in terms of being a dad is just being able to spend time with his son.
“It’s the best time of my day”
He adds that being a parent is better than any other career that he can think of.
“Literally, if I lost everything but still had my kid, I’d be way, way ahead”
Alex’s proudest moment as a dad was when he saw his son born.
“That’s when you’re transformed, literally”
He feels that finding the resources to provide for his family, making time for everyone and making sure he’s raising his child to make the right decisions are all obstacles that he’s overcome as a dad.
An important decision that he’s had to make involves his son’s bedtime. Alex is often up late with his comedy, and his wife works often works late. This tends to set a tone that a later bedtime is normal for his son.
“I’m constantly asking myself if I’m making him go to sleep because it’s good for him, or because we just want to make sure he knows we’re in charge”
He finds that he and his wife are often leaving the decision of going to bed to their child, when he’s tired.
“When they see that they can make the decision for themselves, they actually will do what you want them to do anyway”
Alex adds that it’s important to establish boundaries, but not push too much within them.
His one piece of advice for dads is to remember that your child is an individual, and going to have thoughts and feelings that are different than yours. It’s a delicate balancing act to establish good foundational concepts, but give them ample room to make decisions.
“People only get better at making decisions if they make them; that starts at a young age.”
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