Michael Vance – Show Notes
Michael is a technical writer for a software company based in Houston, Texas, and he’s the dad of a 2.5 -year old boy who is the light of his life. Michael also volunteers with an afterschool program called Five Star Life, which teaches and encourages middle school students to embody the principles of courage, responsibility, integrity, sacrifice and respect. He is the co-host of the Better Father, Husband, Man podcast.
Michael says he volunteers with children in middle school because that’s often the age when they start going off track in terms of alcohol and drug use, among other problems.
“We want to encourage them to be leaders and examples in their homes”
The Five Star Life program has been in existence for about 10 years, beginning in Indiana.
Michael and his wife are intercultural, with her being from Nigeria, which he says in part makes him a Diversity Dad. They blend their cultures together and discuss how they want to raise their son.
“To take the best of both of these worlds and kind of meld them together”
As well, his life experiences of living in some unique places has giving him a unique perspective of the world.
He has his son interact with other people and his wife is teaching him her native language. Michael is a big believer of introducing his son to music from other cultures.
Seeing what his son is going to “latch on to” and become involved in is what has Michael most excited.
“I’m just excited to see him grow and take ownership of what he wants to do with his life”
He’s most proud of seeing his son play the drums and practice, as well as the first time he held his son.
“It was humbling to hold him and realize he was my responsibility”
As a father, Michael tries to stand up to the standard his father set for him.
His biggest obstacle has been learning to sacrifice things, which was difficult because there are certain things he still wants to do.
“He needs to interact with me. I need to interact with him.”
The bonding relationship between father and son actually starts right away and you can miss out on so much when you neglect your children.
One piece of advice Michael can give is to embrace the role of fatherhood.
“Fatherhood is an awesome responsibility, and we play a critical role in the lives of our children”