Trevor Mulligan is the blogger extraordinaire who created One Stay at Home Dad.
He is also the co-organizer of a Los Angeles dads group, and a proud husband and father with two sons.
Trevor considers himself more of a storyteller than a writer. He says he got this gift from listening to his own father tell stories around the campfire.
“Storytelling helps connect people”
From attending different dad events and meeting new people, he’s discovering now that he is a connector.
“It’s the connections we make with other people in our world right now; that excites me”
Trevor considers himself a diversity dad as he quit his job 5 years ago to stay at home, which is against what society considers normal.
“I just basically broke the rules that society has somehow put in place”
He says this doesn’t matter to him, and all that is important is that he does what’s best for himself, his wife and his family.
Trevor is learning every day and says that parenthood is like a “rollercoaster.”
He says that the quality of time you spend with your kids is more important than the quantity of time you’re with them.
It’s important for us to do what makes us happy. That’s what’s going to be projected down to our kids.
“He’s part of multiple Facebook groups, which makes up a large community of dads. A few years ago, someone asked him to be on a television interview, which led to a member of a New York Dads group approaching him about starting a Los Angeles chapter. The LA group now has over 500 members.”
It’s an amazing connection with other dads that are in the same boat that you are in.
“The one thing that has excited Trevor most as a dad is being able to see the world through his sons’ eyes. By doing this, he says that he is rediscovering an innocence that he lost years ago. His proudest moment was hearing his oldest son tell his younger brother” you’ll never know if you can, unless you try.
“Everything Trevor does as a stay at home dad, he credits his wife for, as she’s provided for the family. She also encouraged him to join his first dads group. His oldest son has been surfing since he was 2.5 years old. “
“If you can find something that they love to do, let them do it”
His mantra, and one that he tells his sons, is: “If you want to get better at anything, you have to practice”
Trevor’s biggest obstacle has been his own patience, which he says he is working on every day.
“To be able to slow down and not only enjoy the moments, but to go at their pace”
His advice to parents is to be present when they are with their children.
“Get on their level. Be in their moment. Be present in what they’re doing.”