Vanessa Merten is the fabulous host of the Pregnancy Podcast, which talks about the process of a mother carrying a child for 9 months. She shares with listeners the steps to follow during, and after, the pregnancy, and is a first-time mom herself to a beautiful 16 month old boy.
When she was expecting, Vanessa and her husband were having a tough time finding great resources with information on pregnancy.
“(Our podcast) is the resource that we wish we would have had when we were Expecting”
She had some really good friends in the podcast world to help her with her show. It was a challenge to find the time, but she made an effort to work on the show at nights when her baby went to bed. Little by little, the show came together and she was able to launch it. Vanessa shares that so much focus is on moms, that dads don’t get a lot of attention.
Still, she says that they are a key part of a pregnancy as they offer support from “Day 1”, when the couple discovers they’re pregnant.
“It can be a challenge to make sure you communicate and get on the same page. You really are a team.”
Vanessa currently works at her 9-5 job while her husband stays home with their son. It’s been challenging for her to leave her baby during the day, but she is glad he gets to spend time with his dad.
“If I can’t be there, that’s definitely my next choice”
“It’s been challenging for her husband as well, as she says that fathers usually don’t have as strong of a bond, that innate connection, with their child that mothers do.
Fear of the unknown is common amongst new fathers. Vanessa recommends doing as much research as possible to make the process of becoming a father less scary. Vanessa feels that it takes “a village” to raise a child. She’s lucky to have great friends and family that have helped her.
“We try to be so independent today, but you really need to ask for help if you need it”
Her and her husband join support groups, but took a birth class that they found very helpful.
While in the delivery room, dads just have to be there, and be present, by helping their partner in any way that they can. Once home, this help should continue.
Vanessa’s husband changed almost every diaper for the first week out of the hospital. Her one piece of advice to new parents, or soon to be parents, is: “Just know that everything will work out. It can be so stressful, but you and your partner are going to find solutions. You’re not going to have everything figured out overnight.”
Vanessa had released a podcast episode specifically for dads on December 13th.
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