Hogan Hilling is a father of three and a nationally recognized author who has published 8 books regarding fatherhood. This has led him to create the “Dadly Series.”
Hogan was also invited to the Oprah Winfrey Show to talk about being an at-home dad with his disabled son. He is also creating the “Dadly Rally” which gathers dads to talk about fatherhood. Hogan believes he is a Diversity Dad because of a number of reasons. His single mother raised him, after his parents divorced when he was two years old. He moved from Brazil to the Netherlands with his mom and brother, and reunited with his own father after 27 years of separation. Hogan is a dad of a child with special needs, Wesley, and went through a divorce after 25 years of marriage. As a father advocate, he says he has worked with almost every type of father there is.
“I’ve had a wealth of experience and a wealth of supportive dads in my social circle”
Hogan believes the biggest challenge he has had is fighting the stigma that our culture has created about men being inept, irresponsible and incompetent parents.
He’s had financial struggles due to the large medical bills for his son, as well as the emotional challenge faced when people didn’t see his son as a human being. Hogan says his son has taught him a lot about life.
“Embrace the special gift your child has, and support the passion that they have for the life that they want to live”
He believes the community embraced him because of his attitude towards Wesley.
”I asked for them to embrace him not because they had to, but because they wanted to being mindful about spending time with all of his kids is the one thing that he is most excited about making every second and minute I spent with my kids count.’
“Hogan says he looks at fatherhood through the eyes of his children.”
“That’s the part of being mindful; nothing else matters. One of the things I feel best about as a father, is on my deathbed, I’ll never say that I wish I spent more time with my kids.”
Appearing on Oprah was one of his proudest moments because he got the opportunity to share his parent experience with others. Hogan never dreamt of being an author, but says it just fell in his lap.
Every day he would write in his journal about a happy moment, or something he learned from his kids. Someone suggested he turn his writings into a book. He believes that parents unfortunately tend to focus on the negative aspects of being a parent, because they feel that without drama, they’re not normal.
“People are so engrossed in the challenges of raising a child, and not looking at the joys.”
“His one piece of advice is that people set their ego aside, and ask for help from others dads.”
“If you’d like a father-friendly environment, act like a friendly father, especially to other dads.”
The Dadly Rally is debuting in Marc 2016 (Los Angeles), but they Hogan and his partners want to go nationwide within 5 years (see INTERVIEW LINKS). The people involved want to leave a better parenting legacy for kids.